Waiting...and waiting...and...

Merry Christmas!!

Still waiting for the USCIS approval. I sent it 12/4, but I am reading that it takes as long as 6 weeks. I will take a trip to Harrisburg tomorrow to get the state seals needed for 2 last documents. Md and Va documents were authenticated a little over a week ago (thanks to Ron). Sigh...so close in the paper process, and yet FOREVER away from traveling to Jace. All I can tell you is that I will have him by the summer...

Please pray for me to have the focus I need to get through the paperwork. I am spending HOURS gathering and copying, mailing and faxing...let alone READING everything 100 times to make sure I get it. Thank God for the seasoned adoptive parents in my life that give me advice. I have 'met' some really sweet people on adoption blogs that have been more than helpful (and patient) with me.

Please also pray that Ron will make the right choices relating to this adoption travel. Whatever God would have him do is fine with me. Sorry for being so vague, but I believe God will understand those prayers perfectly.

Thanks to Lynn for her donation at Christmas! We needed that blessing!

Happy New Year!!
xoxo
Shannon

Standing in Awe...

All of you who have supported us in one way or another are my gems. I can't thank you enough for all the prayers, words of encouragement, reading of the blog, financial support and more. When Ron and I started our adoption, we didn't expect any financial help at all. We certainly didn't ask for it for prideful reasons. Ron's salary is a comfortable one. Yes, we have debt that we aren't proud of, but we're comfortable living paycheck to paycheck. In our minds, we would sell our land and our home, pay for the adoption, and downsize. God had a different plan.

I've told you that I didn't know why God wouldn't allow our property or our home to sell so that we could have the funds for this adoption. I believe he has answered me. I think He wants to erase every ounce of pride within us in order to fill us with humility so that He may somehow use us?? Or maybe because I am just so darn stubborn that He wants to break that spirit in me to rebuild me.

It is my prayer this day that you all would know Him as I have grown to know Him-and even more. That you would stand in awe as I do today....


xoxox
Shannon

Amazed

This morning I stand here amazed as I type this to you.

I opened the mail today to find a letter from a former high school mate who recently read this blog. She enclosed a generous donation and encouraging words for me to 'follow my heart'. Because she followed her own heart, we are getting closer to getting our son! I am always amazed--as I have said before--of the people that God uses to bless this adoption. And by the way these people follow His prompting! Especially at this time of year, when people are financially strapped! You'll never know what it means to us...now I get to change the progress meter...lol

I can't wait to get him home! I am praying that USCIS will hurry up. It's been 2 weeks since I sent the paperwork and check to them--still haven't heard anything. As soon as they send the approval--I can send the dossier to China!!! Please hurry, USCIS!!!!

God Bless!!

It's Over...

...Deer season, that is. woo hooo!!!! Finally, my social worker called me to tell me that the papers are on their way! They were sent to her today-she notarized them and sent them to me....can't BEGIN to tell you what a relief that is!

Ron took our MD docs to Towson today for the county seal...then off to Annapolis on Thursday for the state seal! I sent the Virginia documents to Richmond for their state seal...and now I am waiting on the USCIS to send me the approval so that I can get PA docs authenticated! Please pray for swift transactions....PLEASE!!! So close now!!!!

I love you all!!!!!

Donation from a Good Friend

An old friend came into the salon to surprise me tonight!!!! I was so excited to see her!! We had fun catching up. She also gave me a donation toward Jace. Our progress meter just went up a bit!! YAY!!

The Spirit Within

Still no word on the local police clearance. I called my SW worker today and she assured me she would handle it. Now that I think of it, my siding piece isn't fixed either...lol..deer season is a holiday all in itself here in Shrewsbury.

So, it's 5 am and I have been annoyingly awake since 2:30 am...Mom always says that when your spirit feels restless it's the Holy Spirit trying to get your attention. Experiencing this to be true in past circumstances, I am always inclined to pray. Sometimes, I wake up with a person on my heart and I pray for them. Other times I'll give prayers of repentance, guidance, spiritual growth or anything else I can think of. So that's what I did this morning. I prayed, and prayed and prayed. I covered each child, friend and family member that I felt led to. I repented over each 'wrong' I could think of. Still nothing.

As I sit here in my bed this morning journaling my thoughts, I have a little warm body next to me. Now, I have to tell you that in my house we play musical beds. No one is ever in the right bed. You never know where a Pierro child may end up sleeping. Except for Nicholas. Nicholas will seek me out in the night no matter where he is. The house is pitch black, but no lights are needed. Ever since Nicholas could walk he has always wandered about the house in the middle of the night looking for me. We always called him "bat boy". He doesn't need to see--like a bat he feels his way back to his nest. There hasn't been a day I can remember without him next to me when I awake. Nothing pulls at a mothers' heart strings more than to feel a chubby toddler arm around her neck for cuddling. My dad asked Nicholas 2 weeks ago why he always wants to sleep in mommy's bed. My little guy replied, 'Because I like to. It smells like mommy.'

I look at my son laying next to me, sleeping peacefully and wonder when I will finally get to see Jace in moments like these. Here is Nick sleeping so soundly that even in sleep he is comforted by his mothers' smell. With every breath that rises and falls from his little chest he has a sense of security and belonging. Security that only a family can bring. Will Jace ever have that? Will there come a day that he will also know that he is loved abundantly? Even subconsciously? Will he feel safe and have a sense of belonging?

That will be my next prayer this morning. I will pray that the Lord will prepare the heart of this little one from China. Prepare him for tumultuous times and changes ahead. For a trip around the world into the arms of a family that will adore him. A family that will nurture him and embrace his special needs. I will pray for this family to be patient and sensitive to the habits and behaviors that life in an institution brings. Behaviors of survival. That's all he knows, really. Lord, prepare our hearts as well. Give us compassion to see beyond the behavior and help us to heal a broken spirit. A broken heart who must have known his own mothers smell in his beginning months. Help me balance the love throughout this house and fill all the 'love tanks' within it...

It is in Jesus' name I pray....Amen

Oh, Deer!!!

USCIS paperwork is off to Texas!!! I finally received the home study...but I still have to wait on a local police clearance letter. Wanna hear why? Ok, get ready for this one...

Because I live in Mayberry....uh, I mean SHREWSBURY...I do not have a local police department. Shrewsbury Regional covers Shrewsbury borough--I live in the township. Follow me so far? Ok, Shrewsbury township is covered by the PA State Police department. The very same state police that ALREADY ran us for fingerprints, FBI and background checks. For my dossier to China, I need a letter of 'good conduct' from my local police, WHICH is the PA State Police...still follow me??

Ok, I call the state police and explain what I need. The sergeant who answered the phone had NO patience with me and didn't want to be bothered. He then transferred me to his supervisor who told me that they 'don't do that and that if I am adopting out of the country I really need to speak with an attorney.' After I took a deep breath, I assured him that I didn't need an attorney I just needed a letter-and that they had already cleared my background! He told me he would have to do another background check, devise a letter, and have his lieutenant sign it. He also told me not to 'count on it', but that he would try. After all, 'it's deer season and the lieutenant is off for the week'....LOL!!!! So I can't get my letter any time soon because it's deer season!

Now, let me back up...my kids were off school for a week because it was deer season....I also tried to get siding work on my house but was unable to...guess why?? BeCaAuSe It'S dEeR sEaSoN!!!!!

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Jace's Care Package

Ok, still no home study BUT I did get a picture from the company that helps get care packages to all our China dolls.. The girls that run it are sweet (and Christian) and they really want your child to get the care package-very supportive and compassionate. I cried when I saw the picture~~it made me feel closer to him! Crazy!

Please pray for us that Mei will get to review our final home study so that I can have it in my hands this week!!! Mei has to go to China in the next few days, so as stressful as it is to her, I know it may delay things for us too. I know, God's timing is always perfect...doesn't make it easier to wait!!

Sigh...I am endlessly checking the mail and my email for any news. AND for the UPS guy...lol Thank God my kids help to keep me busy!

I'll be posting ANY updates!! Thanks for reading!!!!!

Blessings to You and Yours,
Shannon

ps....a million thanks to you for prayers about my family's support!!

Thank God for Friends!

Ok, guys.... I could use your prayers. I am feeling VERY discouraged lately. Some of our family aren't supporting us on this adoption. I could say so much more, but it wouldn't change anything, so I am just asking for prayer. Especially this time of year because I will be spending a lot of time with them. I pray the Lord guards my mouth!!!

The final draft of the home study is on it's way. SO, hopefully next week I can start sending out documents for authentication!

I have joined an online forum of dedicated adoptive parents within my agency. It's a wonderful, supportive group of families who are in many stages of adoption. Thank God for them! It's so important to have support! I can't stress that enough. I thank God for all of you too...A LOT!

That's all the news I have this week. May all of you have a Happy Thanksgiving!!!! Blessings to all!!!!!

The Lucky Ticket Winner is Diane Casale!!!

AND THE WINNER IS......

DIANE CASALE from Dundalk, MD!!!!!!  Ticket number 1982....


So the Ravens lost, but let's face it--it could've been worse!!!!  


Thanks to ALL who bought tickets!!!  And to ALL who sold them!!!!!  This raffle has been a hug blessing for us!!!!!  What a cool way to help us bring Jace home.  


I will eventually post the video of the drawing, but it is with Ron who is in the car stuck in all that stadium traffic (AND not very happy about the loss either)!!


Hoping for a win next week!!!!!!!


Ron and Shannon

Blessings that Flow...

Thanks to Barbie and Matt, Chique Studios, and Lisa Allender we are $450 closer to Jace (or Baby Chen Chen in little Nick's mind)!!!  You guys are awesome!  There is a lot of love in those hearts of yours...Thank you!!!


Also special thanks to Harry, Tom, Mary, Addrean, Lauren, Phyllis, Mike and Frank for selling tickets--and ALL of you who read and pray!  Some of you we may never meet, but I want you to know we feel the support!


Sometimes, the weight of the worry (especially financially) really bears down on me~~then I am reminded that sometimes things must happen in stages.  Just when I get scared that we won't make a deadline, it happens!  Again I am reminded that God is in control.  Why I can't keep that in my mind is beyond my comprehension.  


Maybe this is why my house won't sell; or why the property is not selling either...God knows that if we sold the property we could afford to adopt Jace.  Maybe God also knows that we may have somehow taken the glory in it instead of it being a gift from Him.  Maybe I NEED the worry so that i don't become filled with self-righteousness~so I that I SEE the blessings flowing...So instead of complaining about not being able to sell, I should praise God from whom all blessings flow....Flowing from Him~to the hearts and minds of others~into our family.  Thank you Lord for all Your ways and for all Your people....


I decided to change the progress meter to a better one.  Notice it has a ladybug on it!!  Ladybugs are a symbol of good 'luck' in China  ;)

RAVENS vs STEELERS this SUNDAY!!!!!

Just a reminder that the drawing for the Ravens VS Steelers game is this Sunday!!!!!  I'm a little nervous for us against Peyton Manning, but am looking forward to watching the game anyway!


Ron will be drawing the lucky winner right after the game at his tailgate area....Hopefully, he can appoint someone to video while he draws so I can post it here!!  I can't WAIT to see who wins!!!!  I wish you all luck!!!!


No news about the adoption process...all is quiet....


Check back on SUNDAY!!!!!! 

Getting Closer!

Hi Everyone,

I got a call from our home study agency today~~looks like one of our documents never made it to it's location to MD for a child line clearance on Ron and me.  I'll be re-submitting that tomorrow....however, the good news is that the agency actually sent documents to our adoption agency for review.  As soon as this process is finished (and we get MD clearance), I'll get a copy and I can send off a TON of documents for authentication.  The ball will roll after that...I know it's early, but  please, please pray for a swift and smooth transaction in this exchange of IMPORTANT, original documents!  It makes me so nervous to send the very things that took so long to get!

The raffle drawing is right around the corner~~I can't wait to see who wins!!  This will be an exciting game on the 22nd because Ron will be drawing the winning ticket shortly after the game!  Also, I wanted to remind you that we will post the winner here on the blog.  We will also post on Facebook as well as calling the actual winner!!  Good Luck!

No other updates for now...as always, we welcome your prayers...God Bless you all!!

Shannon

Still Waiting...

Things are pretty much at a stand still.  We're still waiting for the rough raft of the home study.  Not much going on.  I am finishing up some things to send with the dossier...


I am reading material entitled Becoming your Child's Best Advocate.  Research like this keeps my mind busy and sets my focus on a plan for education.  Also, while we wait, Brynn has set me up with an outline of words to practice and to teach my family.  We are beginning 'sign classes' here at home...this is fun to watch!  The kids pick up sign so fast!  I love seeing their little hands moving...Alex and Ava know the alphabet so they can fingerspell any word...Nick knows A,B, and C so far BUT he knows a few signs as well.  If you're interested in learning ASL, here is a webite:  www.aslpro.com


Please keep us in your prayers...we feel the support!  We couldn't begin to thank you all!!  Every reader!


With Love and Blessings,
Shannon

Stepping Out in Faith

Not a lot going on this week.  I'm gathering some pictures to post for part of the dossier.  Last night I realized that our birth and marriage certificates HAVE to be issued no later than 1 year ago.  SO...I had to order new copies.  It was a little aggravating as I thought I had pretty much everything ready and waiting for authentication.  We have to divide the dossier in 3 different parts and send to 3 different states because each notary's seal needs to be sent to it's own state.  Confusing, I know...


We will need about $6,000 to complete this step.  So far the Lord has provided most of it by donations and raffle.  It blows my mind when I think about that.  I've never put my faith in anything so earnestly.  When I think about how much more I will need, I still get nervous even though I have seen His work thus far.   Crazy, isn't it?


This entire journey is more than I can emotionally grasp.  When I take a step in faith, not sure exactly where to place my footing, He provides a path.  One that is safe and is confirmed for me in some way.  Even when doubt creeps into my mind.  Sometimes I will think 'What am I doing?  What am I thinking? Will he be happy here?  Will I love him as much as my other children?  What if I can't get him to understand me?'...But God always confirms my original intent, and again I am refreshed in my thinking.


Hopefully, the rough draft of the home study is sent to me by next week.  Everyday I almost run to the mailbox waiting for SOMETHING!!  lol


Thanking God for ALL of you reading,


Shannon

What's In a Name?

Well, a lot for me...I love to have a real meaning with a name.  While considering names for all of our kids, we chose the names that have true meaning.

We chose the name :  Jace Jovanni for Chen Chen Fang.

Jace (pronounced 'Ace' with a J) means 'The Lord is my salvation', and Jovanni (pronounced 'Jo-vahni') means 'God is gracious'.  I pondered over keeping his original name, or using it as a middle name.  However, this name was given to him by the institution and not by his birth parents.  In fact, all of the boys in the institution have the same surname.  I do like that Chen means strong, but the name we chose means much, much more.   Also, I know he will be given a sign name in the deaf community, so I wanted an original name for that too!  One that is short yet meaningful.  I will make it a point in his life book to post his institution given name for him, as I know it is important.

Can't wait to post his picture for you all!!!!!  He's beautiful!!

Anxiously Awaiting,

Shannon

Update...

I received an update today from our account manager at CWA.  Special thanks to Andre and his family for their generous donation!  We'd also like to thank Gloria and Melodie--all these hearts beating together for our son--and he doesn't even know it!  Can't WAIT for you all to see him!!!!!  
Love,
Shannon and Ron

Perfect Strangers...By Chance? Or of God?

To all our Walmart ticket purchasers:  THANK YOU!! Because of you and others like you, we are able to pay for our next step in the process!!!!!  Bless you!!!  Thank you Lord, for bringing these people-perfect strangers- and their hearts to us!


Also, Barbie, Matt, Chique Studio girls, Nancy Marchildon, Mary Welzenbach, and all their friends and family...THANK YOU!!!  Without you we wouldn't be this far!! I wish I could personally thank all of you, but I don't even know some of you!  That is SO encouraging!  And humbling!  


For those who didn't know, Ron and Alex have been standing outside of Walmart (with permission) for the past 2 days selling raffle tickets.  We have sold about 45 tickets out there.  They're only set-up from about 4-7 pm.  We have one more day, Wednesday to sell, so c'mon out and see us!!  


We have some other angels out there selling tickets who we haven't heard from yet.  Believe me, as we get their feedback we will be just as gracious and thankful! 


We are bringing home this boy!  This is coming to fruition quickly! ' Thank you' isn't enough.  It just isn't.  And you know what else?  We pray before everything we do.  God has been faithful to us!  How did it take me 42 years to really see the Lord at work in my life?  My eyes have been opened!  What seemed impossible will be here in months!  Praise God!!


Updates to follow....

Happy Birthday to Nick!

Nick turns 4 on Monday, but we had a little family party tonight.  I SO wish Chen Chen could've been there!  I wore a pin made of red and yellow ribbons symbolizing China's colors.  So, in spirit he was there.


This week has been uneventful as far as the adoption goes.  Really, my hands are tied until my home study is finished.  I did receive some medical forms from the agency in Chinese, which was cool.  The reason they gave them to me is because I am to take them to China for whatever reason...Still, it was cool to get them from UPS...makes it feel like it WILL eventually happen!  I can't wait!!!!!


I'll keep ya posted...

China says....

Yes!  To our pre-approval!!  Oh, I am ecstatic!  I figured they would, but still, this is HUGE!!  What a relief to hear!  In fact, I was suffering today with TMJ--so much that I took a pain killer and a nap because  I was cranky from the pain... I happened to check my voice mail at 9pm this evening, only to hear Mei, my Chinese case manager, congratulating us!


Now I need to focus again.  It's so funny that God will send a glimmer of hope when you are almost at your worst point emotionally-just to recharge you!  Praise God from whom all blessings flow!!


WooooHooooo!!

1st Home Study Visit...

is scheduled for tomorrow morning at 10 am.


I am a little nervous, but more excited than nervous!  Excited to be moving along so quickly.  All I am waiting on is our medical paperwork and copy of the home study before I send everything to be authenticated.  Ron wasn't able to get into see the dr until the 27th of October.  Everything else is ready to be notarized, authenticated by US, then authenticated (AGAIN)by Chinese embassy in DC.  Sigh....Isn't it crazy what we have to go through to adopt children who lay in a crib day in and day out begging for love?  Ugh!


Thanks so much for everyone who is selling the raffle tickets!  Looks like people love a good raffle!  Later next month we are going to try to sell some outside of Walmart.  We just got approval for that.


I'll keep you posted as we progress!!  Still waiting to hear from China about 'pre-approval'--I am thinking we MAY get a new picture of him.   If we do, I will ask if we can post it because he is ours!


Many Blessings to ALL!

A Bigger Blessing

The yard sale pulled in about $465.  That was very good, but I have an even BIGGER blessing to share...

I have written about speaking to a very devoted local teacher who works with deaf and HH kids, named Brynn.  Byrnn has set me on a path filled with resources in order that I can research the education that our new son will need.  After speaking with her, I was ready to roll up my sleeves and get to work.  She really was THAT encouraging.

Saturday afternoon, after a long day of selling, I was very tired and a little cranky.  It was at that time a young, bubbly woman came up to the table and asked if I was Shannon.  After I confirmed her suspicion, she introduced herself as Brynn.  She handed me a card and was eager to meet my family.  My entire mood swiftly changed as I listened to the things she said to me.  The sweet words she delivered were clearly from a heart dripping with compassion and love.  The heart of Christ was in front of me, not just encouraging me, but reassuring all of the doubts that swirled about in my mind. 

After she left, Rebekah and I just looked at each other smiling.  I took a deep breath that left me with a refreshing new hope.  Thank you, Brynn for bringing a release to me from the One who sent you.  

In that card was a beautifully written heartfelt note and a very generous donation. Again, love and support from a woman I've never met before Saturday.

It wasn't just my heart that was touched on Saturday.  Rebekah's was too.  She was also encouraged and regained a little excitement in her day as we spoke of the boys we were about to bring home soon. 

Joy always comes in the morning...  Well, in this case, afternoon.

Outpouring of Love

My case worker, Mei, told me today that she submitted the paperwork for the pre-approval to China.  It may take longer than anticipated because of the Chinese holiday, but that's ok.  I am still overjoyed!!

I continue to be blown away by the outpouring of love, support and encouragement by friends and friends of friends.  People who I've never met are donating, praying, thinking, encouraging....

Thanks to my cousin Kristen (and her generous friends) for sticking by me when others don't understand why I would do this!  Thanks to Paula and Tommy for spiritual encouragement.   Thanks to Rebekah who is truly my sister in Christ, and the God given reason we are at this place!  To Kim and her family, thank you for the yard sale stuff!  Barbie and Matt-no words will ever describe the gratitude I have for you and your boys! All the friends from past and present----where would we be without you?  My sister Char, my sister-in-laws, my co-workers....the list is endless!  All of Ron's friends on Facebook who stay connected!  Joe and Lorna....This is truly a blessing!  For all of us!!  And, of course, all the others mentioned from earlier posts are precious as well.

It is a LONG road ahead, but I am just stopping to smell the roses!  Even as I awake throughout the night, I thank God for you all--naming you individually!  How could I not?

Guess What????

I was speaking with my China case worker yesterday and she informed me (much to my delight) that Chen Chen is absolutely ours!!!!  I didn't know I could claim him!  All along he should have been removed from the 'available' list of waiting children,  but somehow he wasn't!  Thank God I asked the questions that I did!  I never would have known it!  I have been busy, busy, busy trying to quickly fill out papers and make many phone calls!  She said the normal wait time is up to 12 months, but as long as my home study cooperates and moves quickly, it will be much sooner to receive him!

My kids are so excited!  Nicholas asks me everyday when I will 'get' Chen Chen.  Alex and Ava are actively practicing their finger spelling, which really warms my heart.  So far Ron can do A, B and C.  LOL!!!!  Baby steps, right??

The raffle tickets are moving too!  Many thanks to every one who is actively trying to sell them!  All of them are out there in the midst.  Hopefully, they will all be sold.  If that happens, the next fees are taken care of!

Please pray that the paperwork trail moves along swiftly without complications!  Thank you for everything!!!!  Praise God we got this far!!!!

Love to all!!!!

Sweet Boy...

Sweet Boy…

I wonder as you wake, Sweet Boy;

   How your day will go.

If your big, round eyes will see the sun

  feeling warmth from head to toe.

Will you lay and wait for someone to come

  To scoop you up with gentleness;

From the crib in which you’ve slept that night

   Into arms filled with tenderness.

Will she hold your gaze and smile at you?

   Will she calm all of your fears?

Will she kiss your face and tickle you?

   Will she wipe away your tears?

One day, my son, the day will come

   When you will be here with me.

Rocking, singing, and signing to you,

   Where the Lord intends you to be.

The silent world in which you’ve lived

  We will soon replace;

With smiles, with laughter and with love

  In a home we’ll all embrace.

Home is where we will wait for you

   Until the Lord brings us to together.

The place where you will have a voice

    And a family you will treasure.

So sleep well tonight, my little man,

   Soon you’ll be here in my arms;

I pray the Lord watches over you

   And keeps you far from harm.

Oh Lord, please hurry and bring him to me

    For every day he’s away;

My hearts beats in anticipation,

    To love him to teach him Your ways; 

But for now, Sweet Boy, I'll blow you a kiss

     That the wind will carry to you;

Bringing peace, comfort and a mothers’ love

    From your home forever and true!

"Are You Ready For Some Footballllllllll"?

Thank you, Jack Burkhead for your donation!  We really appreciate it!


 For those who don't know,  we are raffling off two club level seats with a parking pass for the RAVENS vs. STEELERS game on November 29th at 8:20 pm.  Club level means if it is cold (ladies) you can go inside!  These tickets are worth $400!  The donation is $5 per ticket.  If you'd like to buy one, we can get it to you.   If you think you want to try and sell a book (of 20), we can get those to you as well!!  If we sell enough tickets, we can begin the next step!  YAY!!!  Also, anyone purchasing them can write a check to:  CWF (Christian World Fund), with 'Pierro Fund' in the memo line at the bottom of their check and they will get a full receipt for a complete tax deduction!!  Cash is of course accepted too, but why not get a deduction??


ps.  If you win, you sit next to Ron at the game!  He said IF you are a RAVENS fan you can come to his tailgate!  LOL  Just kidding!


Email us or call us for tickets:
spierro@comcast.net
717-235-5606   


THANK YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Moving Right Along....

YAY!!  I finished the test for the book Adoptive Parenting ( got a 98%) that needed to be completed before I can continue the process, which is actually a L-O-N-G one.  This week we need to get the passports.  I am hoping that Alex can go with me to China because Ron doesn't want to leave our kids for 2 weeks.  So we need to get 3 passports even though Ron won't go.  China requires him to have a recent one regardless of whether he is traveling or not.  I have to get documents notarized AND authenticated by the Secretary of State, which is $20 per document, and something I've NEVER heard of before this.  It is SO much work to complete this paperwork.  Thank God it comes in stages!  Anyone wanting to adopt MUST have a heart for it because the process is quite grueling and takes much perseverance!  I just keep praying throughout each task!


Still gathering things for a yard sale on October 3rd. I am really excited about it.  I don't have much yet, but I have had a few people tell me that they are willing to donate so that makes me very grateful!  Gina is coming over today to help me price the things I do have.  Thank you everyone for donating!!!

October 3rd Yard Sale!!!!!!!

Ok, guys....I just signed us up for the October 3rd Lion's Club Flea Market.  We reserved a pretty big spot.  SO...if you want to get rid of unwanted items, I will take them!!!  I'll take anything that isn't broken or missing pieces.  Ron and I can come and get them, or if you prefer, you can drop them to us.  Whatever way is fine!!  And appreciated!!!


I've sold a few books on Half.com, so every little bit adds up!  I've sold some of our homeschool items and even some furniture.  We still need at least $18,000 and something....sigh...


The paperwork is completely overwhelming, but my supporters tell me to take every day slowly.  Accomplish a little bit each day...I have appointments for passports next week, and this week I will get our pictures taken for them.


Keep praying!!! Please!!!!


Guess what? my doorbell just rang....it was the UPS guy....more paperwork!!!!  LOL


Couldn't do this without you all!!

The Waiting Begins...

Things are started...We sent in the first fees for the adoption and tomorrow morning I will send in the paperwork for the home study.  We couldn't have done it without help from all of you!  And thanks to Liz and Dwayne for giving us so much stuff to sell at the yard sale!  That was a nice surprise today, Liz!  There are many ways to help.  Each is as important as the next.  I know the time that goes into cleaning out a house and delivering it to someone else.  It is a blessing, as is saying a prayer when someone comes to your mind.  Thank you all!


So now as I wait for the next step, more of the same....I continue reading everything I can about parenting an adoptive child, a deaf child, and even Chinese culture.  I am committed to educating myself in every possible way.  And you know what?  It's making me a better mom in the process, because I am applying some of it to Alex, Ava Grace and Nicholas.  


Nicholas asked me yesterday, "Mommy, when are you going to get Chen Chen?"  I replied, 'Well, mommy has to save a little more money first'.  For a moment, he had the inquisitive look on his face that toddlers give when they process data into their little brains. Then his wrinkled brow suddenly lifted into a look disbelief and he said "Nah!!!!!  You're teasing me!!!!", as if he thought I was trying to tell him I had to buy Chen chen from Wal-mart or something.  I love this age!!  Kids are so funny!


Please continue to pray for us if you feel led to.  We really could use it!!!

Let's Get it Started...

Special thanks to Ben and Julie for their donation!  Because of their generous outreach and others like them, Ron just gave me the 'go ahead' to begin the legal paperwork!  


This has calmed some anxiety I had about waking up one day and him being 'gone'~already adopted.  I know that if God ordains it, He sees it through, but I am only human.  I still have some anxiety.  But now we are closer to 'gotcha' time.  As soon as we file this paperwork, get clearances, copies of EVERYTHING, fingerprints, passports, etc...AND we start and complete a home study, we can hopefully claim him.  Ok Shannon, Be Still, Be Still...


Ben and Julie brought to my attention that my personal email on this blog was wrong.  I just made the changes.  If you tried to contact me and couldn't, THAT IS WHY!! So sorry.  My personal email is:  spierro@comcast.net




Thanks again for all your support and prayers!!  Let's get it started...


Love,
Ron and Shannon 

THANK YOU!!!

We checked with CWA today to check our balance after donations...$300 was donated!  We are so thankful to all of you, but especially to Rosa, Amy, Shelli, Barbie & Matt, Harry, Dave, Nancy, and Charlane!!!!  Because of your generosity we are closer to our goal!!


Good news!  $14, 530.00 to go.....I know, it's a lot of money (but better than the original amount)....BUT to get rolling we only need $2200 of that. The donations may have pushed us closer by months!  True, we have to figure out how to get it, BUT every little bit helps!  And, CWA keeps a running total on the donations up to the end, and even after the adoption.  They really get excited to tell you how God works through people to help you make your goal!


I finally started selling on Half.com.  I made my first sale today!  $6....lol...oh well.  We are also planning a cut-a-thon in November AND a yard sale at the end of this month.  SO, if any of you want to help but can't afford to, would you consider donating unwanted items so I may sell them?  Ron or me can come and pick up your stuff,  just let me know!  We appreciate any help at all!!  Prayers are always welcome!  Don't ever think they are discounted at all!!  To me, it is just as important!


I am copying EVERYTHING!  This blog, emails, receipts, prayers and donations to put in Chen Chen's life book.  I want him to know he is special!!  I want him to know how much he is wanted!  I want him to know who helped to bring him home!  I want him to KNOW God and ALL the special people in my life!!!  Perfect strangers who care more than family!!  Thank you!!!!!!!

Waiting...

 An old friend and I were brainstorming yesterday....thinking about having a cut-a-thon at my church to raise some money for the adoption.  I hope it works.  Maybe we'll do it closer to the holidays.  I have some great friends who happen to be stylists that have promised to help!  I think Alex, Ava and me will have fun making and delivering fliers around the neighborhood.  I'll start working on the design--that ought to keep me busy...I get so anxious for something to happen!


I ordered two more books for my library from half.com(cheap!)--I am trying to learn as much as I can about parenting a deaf child.  I am learning things such as how to make him feel completely connected as the rest of us 'hearing' family members are having conversations.  I am learning that I need to make things more visual around the house too. Eye contact and body language is extremely important.  I will keep learning as much as I can while I wait...


Waiting is so hard.  I look at his little video almost daily!  I keep checking to make sure he is still there.  The ladies at CWA tell me not to worry.  That IF God ordains it, he will see it through making everything come at the right time.  In my flesh, I still want to 'put a rush on it'.  I can't help it.  I just keep thinking about the potential that is out there waiting for him to grasp and learn!  Sigh....I  am not good at waiting!

Getting SO Excited!

I am getting SO excited.  More and more of you are bringing me encouraging words!  I love it!  It really helps us focus on bringing him home instead of all of the red tape.  Prayers are so important to us!  Thank you!!  And we LOVE your feedback!


Before I go any further, I want to thank all of you who have donated without my knowledge!  I can only check our fund every two weeks or so please know that if you did donate, I will find you and personally thank you!!  You know who you are!  It's hard for us to ask for help...as I said before, it is very humbling...but necessary nonetheless.  I just keep trying to remember that this is for a little life that needs a family to love him, to help him unlock his potential, and work with him to be the man God intended him to be.  


Sometimes I wonder what he'll be like.  I know God has a plan for him, as He does ALL of us, but I think about who this little guy will become.  He lives in a world of constant silence.  I think about him searching the eyes of his caregivers every day for assurance, for love, for acceptance.  I wonder if he holds his arms up to them to be held... or if he is used to touch at all.  Here, in my family, I still hold Ava and Nick-even CARRY them.  I'd hold Alex if I could (although she'd roll her eyes at that, I know she'd secretly enjoy it).  I wonder if the kids around him even notice him, or share their toys with him.  I was talking to Alex this morning about these very thoughts.  I said "Alex, what if he doesn't like to be held, or touched...or kissed?  What will we do?"  She said " Mom, don't worry, we'll change that!" And you know what?  She is so excited about bringing him home that she agreed to share a room with Ava so the boys could have a bedroom to share!  At 13, that's HUGE!  Even Nick (sometimes) talks about the Thomas the Train room he will share with Chen Chen...BUT, quite frankly, that's on a GOOD day...


I saw my Grandmother today.  She came to the salon where I work.  I was worried about what she'd think about all of this.  I hadn't talked to her personally about it, only through e-mail.  I didn't have time to talk to her when she saw me but she handed me a folded up amount of money and said " Put this toward your adoption."  I didn't know how much it was, and I didn't care.  What I DO know is that I was SO worried about her opinion, and after finally discussing it with her, I found out she was completely supportive!  I shouldn't be surprised because I prayed about that too!!!


Oh, I can't wait to get him!

Staying Positive

Today's open house was uneventful.  We had ONE couple come through from Baltimore.  They said our house was 'nice' but they didn't like the fact that we didn't have a deck. Oh well.  It's only been a month.


I needed to keep my mind positive today, so my girls and I made a poster to take to my work, and we also made some ribbon pins in red and gold, the colors that represent China.  Red is for good luck, and gold represents wealth and happiness.  My intention to give out the ribbons is so that people will see it and remember to pray for him and all the kids that need homes.  I have a picture of Nick holding the poster--it is almost as big as he is.  If I get permission from the agency, I promise to post it here.  It has pictures of him on it and I need permission first--I can't afford to be be breaking any rules!


I was reading Listening With My Heart, by Heather Whitestone today.  This book is SO inspiring!!  She became Miss America in 1995 despite her deafness.  It took her 3 hard years of blood, sweat and tears, but she did it!  She did it to prove a point to herself.  The most important accomplishment that she has made is that she ALWAYS followed her heart.  She was always in step with God's will.  She stood for Him, no matter the cost.  He carried her through, and as a result she helped build an organization to detect early diagnosis of deafness.  She will leave a legacy.  I love to hear about women like this.


In her book, she tells that the average age of detected deafness is at thirty months, and by that age the most critical period of development of speech and language skills has NEARLY PASSED!  This is why I am so anxious to get this little one here.  He is almost 3!  I am told through the agency that he probably hasn't had any sign language training at all yet, and that he is pretty good at understanding gestures from his care givers. That's a plus...but even if he had sign language training, it isn't universal!  To me, deafness isn't so much a disability.  Some may call it a blessing!  But he needs training and encouragement.  He needs a mom by his side every day to do just that-and to help get him through the sweat and tears!   I am more than willing to be her, but I HAVE to wait for God to provide the means and make it happen.  Sometimes I have perfect peace while I wait, and sometimes I am restless.  Today I was restless.  


Some friends have sent me messages of encouragement after reading this blog.  If you want to, please post your comments here.  You never know how your thoughts and experiences may help someone else who may be reading!  I love your feedback AND your encouragement!  

Be Still, Be still, be still...

Well, tomorrow is open house for us from 1-3 pm...I HOPE we get a buyer.  We scrubbed, painted, polished, and organized...Surely SOMEONE will like our house.  But it's just like me to be anxious and impatient.  I would LOVE to be that wife and mother that is always calm and of a quiet nature.  My life verse is Psalm 46:10 "Be still and know that I am God".  I am really trying to be still, but it is so hard when we want to bring home this little boy now!  But this boy and our house are out of my control. If we do get a buyer I can have enough money to start the adoption process.  I try not to think about the 'lump' sum. I need quite a bit to actually 'claim' him.  I just want to concentrate on the beginnings.   Thankfully, there are hearts out there dripping with love and encouragement.  Those hearts are trying to help us bring Chen Chen home.  Perfect strangers wanting to help.  I never realized there was that much hope in this world anymore.  That is encouraging! Not only am I encouraged by financial support, I love to hear others' stories.  I love to hear advice from people in similar situations!  It makes me feel like we're not alone in this.  And believe me, I love prayer and feedback.  So if you feel inclined to send a comment or a prayer--please do!!

We were brainstorming on fundraiser ideas.  Ron was thinking of a raffle for the Steelers tickets this year.  My mom and sister mentioned and multi-family yard sale/bake sale.  My boss said I should sell candy bars at work.  Any other ideas out there?  I'd love to hear your ideas!  I hate to feel like I am 'begging' for money.  But then I try to remember it's  NOT for me.  It's for a little boy who is probably just waking up as I am ready to go to bed.  Waking up without a family.  Waking up hoping his diaper will be changed soon.  That he will be fed soon-even held.  See?  This is what my mind does to me....Be still, be still, be still!!!

Sigh.....

Gentle Nudging

I went to work today just to pop in and pick up my paycheck.  Gina tells me there is a panicked bride-to-be in the reception area (tomorrow is her wedding) that needs a practice updo (something bad happened at the salon where she was supposed to go) and suggested that maybe I could help her.  So I did.  After a few moments we started getting to know each other, and of course we got on the subject of our kids.  Now by this time Gina had a break and was sitting in the chair adding to the conversation.  I told this woman about Chen Chen and she thought it was nice, etc.  Gina tells her he is deaf.  Well, it just so happens that THIS bride works with special needs kids---knows sign language too...I looked at Gina and her mouth was opened from surprise.  I stopped curling and said "See?  This KEEPS happening! THIS IS WHAT I AM TALKING ABOUT!"  Gina felt her arms and said "I just got chills!"

Now, I am quite sure that some of you may think this is coincidental.  It's not!  I know this is God speaking to me.  Gently encouraging me-gently nudging me.  And I know this is so because he is using so many people to do just that!  I am not a trusting person by nature.  My Aunt Paula told me that God must be saying "That Shannon sure is stubborn, look at all I have to go through to convince her." This is a woman with a pure heart.  She knows her God.  

People I don't even know are praying for me because of the friends in my life.  Friends I haven't seen in years!  It means so much to me!  You know who you are!  I don't have to name them all.  Lord knows I have already thanked them....but they will NEVER know the depth of my gratitude-not in this life!  People who can't afford to donate are donating.  THIS is what breaks me.  THIS is what God is using to humble me.  We all know (hopefully) the story of the widow who tithed all she had in Luke 21: 1-4 (yes, I had to look that up!).  These are the people that touch me.  Please, please don't think I am asking for money as I write this.  Honestly, that is between the reader and God!  I just want the people who are following this life journey to KNOW that I am thankful!!  Thankful that you even CARE to read it!  Thankful that you care about my family!  Thankful that you CARE...in general!

I said to Ron tonight, "You know, this time next year we may be the parents of a deaf child.  Does that scare you?"  He said, "No.  Being a parent doesn't scare me."  Not the normal "Yes, it scares the hell out of me" that was expected.  All I could do was smile.  Who is this man?  Certainly not the man I married...but a man that just may be getting a gentle nudging, as well.

Listening With My Heart...

... is the name of one of the books I ordered for my 'library'.  It came in the mail today.  I can't wait to read it!  It's about a deaf girl who was Miss America 1995.  She talks about her faith in God, her spirit of determination, and her hard work to never give into voices of discouragement despite her challenges.  Sounds like the kind of read I need!


I have much support from friends and friends of friends.  Most people have told me that they think we're doing a great thing.  Some family members are concerned that this is a burden too heavy to bear.  I am discouraged by negative words.  I am.  I can't help it.  Thank you Lord that the support outweighs the negative.  I just think maybe they're scared for us and our kids, and they can't help but react that way.  I just know that when they see him they will love him.  How could any human being not?  I know God wouldn't give me anything I couldn't bear.  We all face hardships and burdens.  But this is a life!  A beating heart.... living, breathing, thriving little body that needs nuturing.  Needs touch.  Needs a 'momma'.  And I want to be that momma!  Thank you God that Ron wants to be his daddy!  And thank you God that my girls have huge hearts that hold enough love to WANT another brother.  Thank you that they already say, "My brother Chen Chen". 


I found Alex yesterday laying in my bed practicing sign.  She wants her brother home...Now THAT'S me listening with my heart...

Selling, selling, selling...

So, with the help of my mom, sister, and dear friends...Ron and me may decide to have a bull roast or bake sales, or something like it to try to raise some money for our boy.  Poor Ron, I am selling everything I can on Craigslist to put some money aside...he said to me today "Uh, I am gonna come home one day and everything will be gone?"  lol....You know what I told him?   "Honey, don't worry--it's less to move one day!"

 This is so different for me because I usually GIVE everything away just to get rid of it.  Material things have very little value to me.  A few keepsakes here and there are special but that's it.  As a matter of fact, I am learning through this whole process that I have done nothing but WASTE money ALL my life.  I have always had a 'gotta have it now' mentality.  Unfortunately,  Ron has (almost) never told me 'no', and provided whatever I wanted regardless of the cost.  Shame on me!  I am 42 years old and just realizing this!  I don't even WANT to think about what lessons that has shown my kids.  I am pretty disgusted as I walk around my house and look at all of the wasted money!  I could have had 10 adopted kids (ok, I really wouldn't want 10, but you get my point) by now!

I have started buying some books for myself AND for Chen Chen (that's his given name but only from the institution-we'll change it--maybe Vincenzo--that has 'chen' in the middle) on Half.com so that we can have a little 'library' of sign books for when he comes home.  The books for me are more about what to expect as an adoptive parent.  His are much more fun and colorful (I recommend that website highly!  You can get used books soooo cheap!!! ) .  Can you imagine what it will be like on a flight home from China with a deaf child? LOL...I am crazy, I know...but it's God that gave me this heart for him, so I know He will help me.

By the way, I found that the books I ORDERED for him are ALSO on the Deaf Society recommended list. Funny, huh?  I had no idea!

Ok, enough for tonight....Please pray for us!!  And thank you!!!!

Humbled

Okay, so I started this blog to keep everyone informed of the steps along the way.  I think it's more for me to journal my feelings and to keep my mind busy!

Last night a friend and former co-worker made a donation for our fund.  I don't know how much she donated yet, but I don't care if it's one dollar!  What I do care about is that I know God is humbling me in this whole process.  I have never asked for anything from anyone--I have always been the one to give, whether it be my time, compassion, money--whatever...does not matter.  I am on the other end now.  I believe God is teaching me humility and using it to diminish any pride left in me.  Thank you, Barbie and Matt.  She told me her little adopted son prays for my little boy every night.  That's enough to humble anyone!

I woke up this morning thinking about him.  His little picture dances through my mind everyday.  I hold my kids, kiss their faces and wonder if I'll ever be able to do that to him.  I wish I could show you his picture, but it is forbidden to do so unless he is mine.  Which, I believe he will be!!

Happy Sunday to all!!

Adoption Donations to Our Fund

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Thanks for helping us bring him home!!!

Ron and Shannon Pierro

A Journey of Love… August 18, 2009

Some months ago, Ron asked me to consider having another baby with the hope that we could have another son, and brother for our youngest child, Nicholas. My immediate reaction was to tell him that the ‘kitchen was closed’ and he’d better forget it. My life is getting easier—why would I do something like that? After explaining this to him (and many other reasons), he asked me if I would consider adoption. This is how we got to the place we are today…

Days later we learned that friends of ours from our church were in the process of adopting a boy from Ethiopia with a Christian organization called CWA. It was very exciting to learn about their adoption process. They were throwing a church yard sale to help raise the adoptions funds.

One evening I decided to check out CWA’s website. Although I felt sympathy for these waiting children, I still wasn’t considering adoption for us. That is, UNTIL I saw a picture of a little boy from China. The face of this precious child tugged at my heart as I watched a video of him-over and over again. I was instantly drawn to him (besides, he looks like a Chinese Nick…lol). As I searched for more information on him, I learned that he has severe sensory nerve deafness. WoW! I have always loved sign language and deaf culture. In fact, the night before I saw his picture, I finished an online course for American Sign Language, eager to start my next class. As I continued to watch the video, Nicholas became interested. I teased and asked him, ‘Nick, who is this boy?’ He answered, “Is that my brudder?” Hmm…strange thing for him to reply, but then again, Ron WAS coaxing him into asking me for a brother…

For days I thought about this little boy, and prayed that he would find his forever home. For days he wouldn’t leave my mind. I knew we could never afford to adopt this boy. $25,000? We don’t have that kind of money! Just for my own satisfaction I decided to send an email to inquire about him. I clicked the ‘send’ button, and off to bed I went. That night I dreamed that he was sitting on my lap. I asked him “Where’s my eyes? Where’s my nose? Where’s my ears? Where’s my mouth?” In my dream he pointed to all of them. I remember thinking ‘How does he know what I am saying? He is deaf AND Chinese!’

The next day while visiting my friend, I told her how discouraged I was that he was deaf. After all, Ron could never take him to a football game. He doesn’t know ASL. And what about Nick…how would he ever communicate with this little one? I knew my girls would be okay with it, but I couldn’t help but worry. How could I read to a deaf child? This dear friend encouraged me not to worry but to pray about it and to trust God. I got back into my car, and while driving home, prayed that the Lord would send me a sure sign to not be discouraged. When I got home, there was an email from CWA telling me not to worry about communicating with him, as he probably hasn’t had ANY instruction whatsoever. Also, in that email was some of his medical information. In reading these documents, I was amazed at some of the things he could do even though he was deaf. One sentence in particular stood out:

CAN POINT TO EYES, EARS, NOSE, AND MOUTH.

My stomach did a flip as I remembered the dream I had the night before. Instantly, I felt God’s blessing! I couldn’t hold back the tears. I read further that he was named after the SUNSHINE’S first morning rays. Sunshine is the name of my sister-in-law who was killed tragically in a car accident last year. More tears…

Of course I shared all of this with Ron. He was skeptical at first, but still listening. Each night we prayed together that God would lead us into a decision. We knew the money was unobtainable. We still pray often…

About a week later, I was telling an acquaintance of mine all of these details. Again, I was telling her how discouraged I was that in all my research there wasn’t a deaf school locally. She wished me good luck and away she went to one of our friend’s house to swim. Later that evening, she called to tell me that while she was at our friend’s house, she met a teacher from a local school that teaches deaf children and that she was excited to talk to me!!!! I started laughing hysterically—I couldn’t believe my ears! Her voice was screaming with excitement as she told me that I’d better go get this boy! I called this sweet young Christian woman the next day, and she made me promise to keep her informed of our decision.

I thought a lot about how our families would react to us adopting a Chinese boy. A deaf, Chinese boy. They know my passion for this culture, but would they understand why I would want to take on such a challenging task? Challenging to them—rewarding to me. I could show this boy love. I could give him a home. I could show him the Lord! But how would they react?

My sister-in-law, Gina, sat with me and watched that video with tears in her eyes. She got up from my couch, opened her purse and handed me $100….’Put this toward him, Shannon. Go get him,’ she said. I was overjoyed. I now only need $24,900!!

Our friend’s yard sale was finally underway, and she was sorting out an endless pile of books. On the top of a pile was a book entitled Sesame Street Book of Signs ABC’s. We laughed that maybe it was a ‘sign’and she gave it to me. By the way, she raised $3000.00 toward her son’s adoption! Just enough to get them rolling…

Weeks later a package from the American Society of Deaf Children arrived in the mail, addressed to me. I don’t remember asking for literature, but I opened it anyway. Inside was chock full of information and encouraging words for parents of deaf kids. A bookmark read ‘How To Read To Your Deaf Child’. Wasn’t I just asking how to do that? Also, some recommended books were listed. At the top of that list was a book that sounded familiar. Could it be? I frantically rifled through a box filled with books until I found what I was looking for! No wonder it looked familiar! It was the very book from the yard sale!!!



So this is where we stand today. Somwhere in the middle. Still waiting, still praying and hoping to bring this little boy home one day. Continually I pray for him. I pray that he will find his forever home. Whether or not we get him, I couldn’t possibly know at this time. But I do know that in my heart he is already my son.

Please pray for us. Please pray for these kids. And if you feel the Lord’s leading to help us bring him home, by all means—please help us to make it happen!

My friends tell me that if God wants us to have him, He will make a way for us to get him. We’re hoping for a miracle. Please Lord, let that happen… Please make a way for us to bring him home.

Thanks for reading about our journey of love…


Blessings,

Ron and Shannon Pierro